As I challenge myself to change and adapt life to counter-balance the demands of a hectic working schedule, there is the reality that I will fall off the bandwagon on many occasions. Research has shown while most will have the odd lapse, unless we learn to handle the feeling that comes with that of fall off the band-wagon, it could mean total failure in the attempt to achieve our health goals. Research shows that 98% have had a slip-up when trying to action our health and change a life-pattern, however that does not mean that 98% of us will fail in achieving our targets.
With this in mind, I want to blog on the need and ability to jump back on the band wagon and now despair at the odd blip along the road to success. Fall off the plan can be due to a number of reasons; no time or energy after a busy day, lack of preparation or just simple tiredness. But it is not the fall from the plan that is thing that, it is how we reach emotionally that is the key to all of this.
Here are some tips to get back on the band wagon, when we fall off it:
1. Don’t Beat Yourself Up: – If previous attempts have caused a lapse, stop beating yourself up for it. Accept that it is has happened and accept the reality. The more you are looking over your shoulder and beating yourself up on things, the less likely we will focus on moving forward, and more focus on why we lapsed.
2. Focus on Now: – When things do go off track, it’s important to learn to be mindful. That means understanding how to focus on the here and now, rather than being distracted by negative emotions that can be triggered when we make mistakes. Don’t blame yourself and most importantly develop the skills to be more flexible to get back on track more quickly
3. Get back into a Positive Mind: – Keep the mind positive, think about what can be achieved and what is been attempted. It is very easy to get bogged down in negatively as to why and how, but the reality is that this will happen and it is time to accept it and move it on.
4. Treat yourself like a Close Friend: – In a recent survey 84% of people said that they had typically been critical of themselves after a lapse BUT only 9% said they would have been similarly harsh with someone else who was in their position. Treat yourself like that close friend and remove the harshness and replace with kindness.
5. Repair and Reset and Then Go: – The falling of the bandwagon may have been because of a certain item. Rather than repeat this and do the same thing over and over again without success, why not try and repair it! It’s like trying to put a square block in a round hole and then getting annoyed a when it doesn’t work. Be clear with what you want and then determine the level you can achieve. Whatever it is, the more specific we can be on identifying those items that cause us to jump off, the more you can plan on how to get that goal accomplished.
So the whole purpose of this blog was not to point the finger, but rather understand the reason why and move on. Rather than give up, maybe it is wiser to understand a point of failing as a point of learning and moving it forward and not backwards